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When things don’t go the way we want and why (sometimes) it feels like a big deal
I’ve been at my computer for a couple of hours writing my usual weekly post (about slaying our imaginary dragons by the way).
It’s been more of a ‘battle’ than usual and I can’t quite get it to a place where I feel OK to post it. I have a draft, I know what I want to say, but I haven’t nailed the words in the way I want.
So I’ve put it aside (at least for today.)
As soon as I did that, I saw an opportunity to write about ‘the gap’ I often see with clients (and in myself). The ‘gap’ that creates all our discomfort, the ‘gap’ that we think is the barrier to getting what we want, and the ‘gap’ that, to many of us, feels like the thing we have to ‘tackle’ before we can put our focus on achieving our goals.
Ah, how wrong we are.
It’s Illusory…
When I first bring up the idea of a ‘gap’ it’s possible your mind goes to somewhere in the future — something you think you’re moving towards?
In fact you’ll often hear coaches tell you that’s what they do — “help their clients close the gap between where they are and where they want to be.”
I see it differently, though; I see that the gap isn’t really a gap. It’s illusory, and therefore…
