…which are actually general (life and work) lessons (of course)
(Long post alert. TL;DR, life happens, it’s not a bad thing, it’s a life thing.)
Basecamp announced a suite of changes recently, self-described as ‘a full version change’, that caused quite some chatter on the social channels.
It got me curious… what goes on behind the scenes (of the human mind) that causes these kinds of situations? And what options are available to us?
So, curiosity in hand, I thought it would be fun and potentially useful to run a case study. Less for the gossipy chatter and outrage I…
Sometimes my first client conversations go deep into the problem, the challenge or the desire my client is bringing to our work together. And sometimes they go high and wide, discussions about the meaning of life that don’t seem to connect to the immediate challenge, and yet explain everything.
My conversation yesterday was the latter. A highly successful professional, a famous name in his field, who felt like he’d lost his way, like his success had peaked and the only track was down. He wanted to recapture some meaning to his life and work, to feel fulfilled, to feel excited…
And why is it so hard to spot the join?
I completed with a client this week and, inevitably I guess, we looked back a bit at what’s happened over the time we’ve been together. That said, I don’t particularly encourage that because memory is faulty, so who knows what really happened.
You know, one thing that strikes me is how much better my conversations are. With my team, of course, but also with colleagues, and even outside work, with friends and family.
Everything goes so much more smoothly, it’s relaxed, we agree on more and things just…
And what to do about it…
What is innately and universally true about resilience? And what if we strengthened that, worked with the natural systems — something akin to the idea in Taleb’s ‘antifragile’ as a friend pointed out when we had this discussion on LinkedIn.
If it’s true that there is a natural ‘regeneration’ of the human spirit then how is it possible to be the exception to resilience?
And if that’s true, then what would it mean for how we regard, and take care of ourselves, and how we support others in our circles at home and at…
…and making the invisible visible.
It’s never my role to ‘tell’ clients what to do, or even to offer advice, although sometimes suggestions can loosen the lid of ideation; but to open up their ideas of who they are and what they might not be seeing about themselves and about the people around them and, of course, it’s all for the purpose of ‘the work’ — their work in the world.
There is lots of potential for coaching in those ‘big’ questions, and this,
Who’s in the room…?
What will I do with this one wild and precious life?
When I wrote about deep time, I had in mind planetary time, or longer, a sense of timelessness, where ‘time’ is a construct of human consciousness and there is something that exists outside of human understanding.
The idea of time as ‘infinite’ perhaps?
But these are contemplations rather than the reality most of us live in and, most days, I find myself in much more practical conversations,
How shall I live?
How do I make the most impact with my one short life?
Will I ever achieve what I…
Or at least becoming more sensitive to seeing them!
I spend some of my time with clients, usually at the beginning of our time together, helping them see the difference between what is out in the world, and the thought-created ‘illusion’ they experience as real.
We’re aiming to develop the facility to take a moment, pause before rushing to make sense of things, and sit with the ambiguity a little longer. I want them to widen the scope of the actions they think they can take, and make considered, hopefully wiser, choices before rushing in.
I was with a client…
And what’s it actually made of?
I posted this cute picture (well cute to me) on social media this week, snapped on a bike trip, with a witty comment about sharing the lady’s pain over her lockdown locks.
It got a few laughs, who doesn’t like a nice animal picture?
But I also know that any presumption on my part, is completely that, it’s on my part.
I saw one interpretation, who knows what you will see, and, of course, we neither of us have any idea what the experience of being photographed was like for the lady in the…
An unusual and unexpectedly fascinating place to find leadership lessons…
It may seem bizarre for someone who believes that the foundation of all leadership is unconditional love to be drawing lessons from military strategy, and counterinsurgency strategy at that-the darkest of the military arts. But a combination of coincidence and curiosity led me down what turned out to a fascinating path.
(and yes, the context for this ‘intellectual curiosity’ is the death, destruction, harm that we humans do to each other in the name of… well whatever word we might insert but it does not begin with L and end…
How long is your timescale? And what difference does that make?
Let me ask you this,
How long is your timeline?
The one in your head when you think about all the things you make decisions about? Shopping, buying / renting a house, choosing a career, a partner, a holiday?
For me it’s variable.
Sometimes immediate, mundane, regular,
When is my neighbour going to bed and when will that music go off?
Sometimes it spans weeks or months,
When will I next hug my son in Australia?
And sometimes I lose completely the sense of time and there is a…